JUNE 24 - 26, 2021 / WORLDWIDE
DAY 2 FRIDAY JUNE 25th
SEGMENT 9: 7.15 - 8.15
KEYNOTE: Reconciling Resentment and Regret in the Change Phase of Treatment
with Wendy Behary
Includes LIVE Questions and Answers
There is an inevitable and predictable loss when a client begins their transformational journey in treatment – even when that loss is in the interest of their health and wellness. While it would seem a celebratory experience, giving up the burdens of longstanding schema-driven distress, it is also a time of grief.
Beyond the loss of that which (albeit painful) is familiar and predictable, there is the loss of longstanding underlying expectations, wishes, and dreams; the lingering images of possibility… that someday their loved one might express love, nurturing, empathy, even remorse for the deprivation, rejection, neglect, abuse, or betrayal they showed.
As these clients begin to make sense out of their emotional autobiographies, schemas and modes, some may experience a phase where they get hijacked by a fixed focus on resentments toward self and others. Held hostage by regrets for not figuring it out sooner, and for “wasting their lives” on “foolish fears, wishes, and actions”, they struggle to move into the healthy (scary unknown) change phase.
About the Presenter
With 25 years post-graduate training and advanced level certifications, Wendy Behary is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and co-director (with Dr. Jeffrey Young) of The New Jersey-New York City Schema Therapy Institutes. She has been treating clients, training professionals and supervising psychotherapists for more than 20 years. Wendy was on the faculty of the Cognitive Therapy Center and Schema Therapy Institute of New York (until merging in 2012 with the NJ Institute), where she trained and worked with Dr. Jeffrey Young since 1989. She is a Founding Fellow and consulting supervisor for The Academy of Cognitive Therapy (Aaron T. Beck Institute). Wendy served as the President of the Executive Board of the International Society of Schema Therapy (ISST) from 2010-2014.
Wendy Behary has co-authored several chapters and articles on Schema Therapy and Cognitive Therapy. She is the author of"Disarming theNarcissist...” (New Harbinger, 2013) translated in 10 languages. Wendy has a specialty in treating narcissists and the people who live with and deal with them. As an author and an expert on the subject of narcissism, she is a contributing chapter author of several chapters on schema therapy for narcissism for professional readers. She lectures both nationally and internationally to professional and general audiences on schema therapy, and the subject of narcissism, relationships, anger, and dealing with difficult people. Her private practice is primarily devoted to treating narcissists, partners/people dealing with them, parenting issues, and couples experiencing relationship problems.
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Schema therapy has been extensively researched to effectively treat a wide variety of typically treatment resistant conditions, including Borderline Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Read our summary of the latest research comparing the dramatic results of schema therapy compared to other standard models of psychotherapy.