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May 1: Track 2

"Empathic Confrontation and Limit Setting" 

with Remco van der Wijngaart and Hannie van Genderen 

Schema therapy and limited reparenting are often associated with warm, compassionate care. The expression of this warm, caring attitude is healing for clients with an emotional deprivation in their upbringing; they will experience the warmth and secure connection they lacked in the past.

Many clients, however, as youngsters developed survival strategies that are often experienced as inconvenient or annoying by others in their current lives. For example, behaviour patterns of avoidance or overcompensating patterns of clients that were functional in the past may now cause irritation and frustration to the therapist. Also, coping modes or parent modes may cause clients to harm themselves or others. In these cases, limited reparenting as a warm and understanding attitude will often not be sufficient to break the behaviour patterns. In those situations, good care requires therapeutic skills to confront empathically and set limits.

Many schema therapists find these forms of limited reparenting much more difficult than the warm, understanding attitude and active support. Empathic confrontations and setting limits will put pressure on the client - therapist relationship and the resulting tension may well trigger schemas such as Failure, Self-Sacrifice or Subjugation for the therapist. This could lead to late, or too few empathic confrontations being given and late or insufficient limits being set.

In this workshop, participants will acquire the following skills: 

  • -  Refining skills for empathic confrontation and setting limits
  • -  Apply these skills in some challenging situations we sometimes encounter as therapists
  • -  Tips and tricks to make setting limits easier
  • -  The slightly different attitude that is required compared to other aspects of Limited Reparenting
  • -  Discovering your limits when you have to set limits

Based on the above, the goal is to practice these firmer types of care in a safe atmosphere with a lot of activities and humour as one of the tools.

The workshop will make use of the recently developed teaching material 'Schema therapy, step by step'. This USB drive will be available at a reduced rate at the congress.

About the Presenter:

Remco works as a psychotherapist in private practice in Maastricht, the Netherlands. He was trained and supervised in Schema Therapy personally by Jeffrey Young from 1996 until 2000. Remco specializes in borderline patients, with cluster C personality disorders and anxiety and depressive disorders.

Remco provides training courses and supervision in Schema Therapy worldwide.

Hannie van Genderen is a clinical psychologist, supervisor and trainer in schema therapy and cognitive behavioral therapy. She has been giving training courses since 1980 and together with other contributors authored the books ‘Patronen doorbreken. Negatieve gevoelens en gewoonten herkennen en veranderen’ (‘Breaking through patterns: Recognizing and changing negative feelings and habits’, and ‘Schematherapie bij Borderline Persoonlijkheidsstoornis’ (‘Schema therapy in Borderline Personality Disorder’).

Why Schema Therapy?

Schema therapy has been extensively researched to effectively treat a wide variety of typically treatment resistant conditions, including Borderline Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Read our summary of the latest research comparing the dramatic results of schema therapy compared to other standard models of psychotherapy.

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